(Before I delve into this I would like to say that when I refer to "marriage" or "couple", I am referring only to normal marriage between one man and one woman. Any other "marriage" may be sanctioned by the state, but is not a real marriage in the eyes of God or rational people.)
Very often couples live together but do not want to commit themselves to each other for life. They say things like "we don't need a piece of paper to prove our love for each other." But a valid marriage is much more than just a piece of paper.
We make
vows when we marry because a stable marriage is better for men, for women, for children and for
society. I won't go into the reasons why here since there is a vast amount of information available online or in books to show this is true. So what exactly is a "vow"?
The dictionary defines "vow" as: "a solemn promise; one by which a person is bound to an act, service, or condition; to bind or consecrate." A couple makes a solemn promise before God and all those witnessing to join their lives together for life. They freely give themselves to each other. They promise to love and cherish each other. They promise to stand with each other in good times and in bad; in sickness and in health; whether wealthy or poor, until the death of either one of them.
This is a scary thing. To place your life in the hands of another. But it is necessary and the only way to have a good relationship, a good family and stable children.
When vows are broken, it's not because of the failure of the vows themselves, but because the weakness and sinfulness of the individuals causes them to break those vows. Not making the vows in the first place only makes it more likely that the relationship will fail, the family will be broken and the children damaged mentally and emotionally.
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